I asked my followers on Instagram what I should blog about, and there were so many girls that replied and said that they wanted me to write about bullying, mean girls, being kind, etc. so here is my advice. First of all, isn’t it sad that we all feel this way? Why do girls try to tear each other down to make themselves feel better? Why do we compare ourselves to other girls? “Who says you’re not perfect? Who says you’re not worth it? Who says you’re the only one that’s hurting?” Do you know that there was a study that followed the eye movements of women as they walked into a room? They weren’t looking around the room for the hottest guy, they were surveying the room for the most beautiful woman- their competition! Each of us is beautiful in a unique way, and we aren’t supposed to be the same as everyone else. The world would be a boring place if we all had the same hair and eye color. There are so many different kinds of beautiful. We are all our own kind of beautiful! Each and every one of us. There is not a single one of us that is worthless and doesn’t have a purpose on this earth. School is hard enough. It’s hard enough to get along. It’s hard enough to deal with boys.. we need to try our best individually to build one another and make sure that no girl feels excluded, bullied, or worthless. Females are the dominate gender, and as women it is our duty to uplift and encourage each other to be better. There is not a single girl I know that doesn’t have a bad hair day, or days that they have to put on sweats and a t-shirt and drag themselves to school. And on those days wouldn’t it be nice to have girls around you tell you that you are beautiful anyway? Girls can help each other build their self esteem. Sure having a boy tell you that you are beautiful is nice, but it always feels better coming from a girl that knows exactly what you are going through. We do not need to get our value from kissing boys or having a boyfriend. Instead, we should be able to get it from other girls building us. Surround yourself with girls that make you feel good about yourself and make you want to be a better person, not people who drag you down and make you think about your flaws, because who doesn’t have flaws?? I know I do! “I’m no beauty queen, I’m just beautiful me!” And that is the very reason why we should help each other see the positive in life and in ourselves. We can help each other become better versions of ourselves. Self esteem is huge for teenage girls. How you think about yourself affects everything, and we need to help each other recognize how amazing we all are- because we are all so amazing. Everyone recognizes all of the flaws that they have already, and it makes it even worse when other girl tells them that they have a zit on their face, or that they have ugly hair that day. There is no point in trying to make another girl feel bad about themselves because it is definitely not going to help you feel better yourself, so what’s the point in bringing down someone else? So… BE NICE! Be kind. Look around for someone you can say hi to. Look for someone sitting alone at lunch. Remember what our moms taught us, If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all! I love you, you gorgeous humans!
P.S. Go listen to that song “Who Says” by Selena Gomez, and turn it up loud!!
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